Divorce Or Affair Recovery

Rebuilding After a Divorce or Affair

If divorce proceedings have already started, you may as a couple already come to the conclusion that reconciliation is out of the question. As a skilled, reputable divorce counselor, I can act as a mediator between the two parties so that some degree of common ground can be established. This may not be easy, but if both parties want to work together for the sake of their children, some headway can be made over time.

Once a couple chooses to separate or file for a divorce, they have finally come to the realization that nothing they do will bring back the relationship they once had. Counseling offers them a chance to resolve any issues that may still have with one another and give them a chance to build a relationship they can both live with. Once this has been accomplished, both parties can move on with their lives and start to build positive relationships with others. Counseling is one of the best ways to work things out in an amicable fashion, making it possible for both parties to work together to raise well-adjusted children.

Another Perspective…

Divorce counseling involves more than trying to get two people to see the other person’s point of view. Both parties are given opportunities to learn about themselves as well as their former partner. They are given the opportunity to see things from an outside perspective. The counselor offers them advice on things they may try to do differently in the future, a well as how to take responsibility for their actions, especially if they played a role in dissolving the marriage.

A New Chapter…

Another part of divorce counseling is helping each party come to terms with the end of one relationship and the beginning of a new chapter in their life story. Failing at marriage is something many people have difficulty accepting. They begin to feel depressed and worthless. Divorce counseling is a good way to reverse those feelings and give each party the level of support they need to move forward and grow as an individual.

Separation, an Alternative before Divorce

Counseling while married is the best way to save the relationship. Once it has gotten to the point where both parties see no positive outcome, they will often make the decision to separate. Separation is similar to a trial run when it comes to divorce. Even though both parties may still hold out a small ray of hope to save the marriage, a separation may not be enough to actually salvage the relationship. Divorce counseling will help them take that final step and possibly maintain a positive relationship.

Heated arguments and constantly trying to retaliate against one another will not only destroy the marriage but will also destroy any chance of the couple remaining on good terms. A good divorce counselor will be able to help each person take a good look at themselves and identify potential areas where they can improve. As they begin to feel more comfortable with themselves, they can then move on to trying to get along with one another.

Affair Recovery

Has infidelity created tension or distance between you and your partner? Do you wonder if you’ll ever be able to trust your partner again? When you discover that your spouse has cheated, you may enter a state of shock as you try to cope with a deep sense of betrayal. The resulting pain can be gut-wrenching and you may feel overwhelmed by fear, anxiety, disbelief, helplessness and devastation. Perhaps you’ve always turned to your spouse in times of crisis, but the recent break in trust has left you feeling alone, searching for someone to help you make sense of it all.

When you discover an affair you may begin to question your self-worth, asking yourself questions like, “What is wrong with me?” or “Am I not pretty, young or sexy enough?” Through this confusion you may try to ignore or look past the infidelity, clinging to your partner and experiencing more intimacy than you have in a long time. But, if you fail to address the cause of the affair, you may quickly start to feel insecure in your relationship. Do you wish you could find a way to recover from the affair and reestablish trust and safety with your partner?

Successful marriages rarely make the headlines. Instead, you hear about celebrities constantly cheating and suddenly filing for divorce. Affairs are one of the most common causes of hardship or separation in a relationship. But, while roughly half of all marriages end in divorce, only five percent of struggling couples seek counseling.

Affairs can damage or break trust between you and your partner, and the issues will not get resolved by ignoring them. The affair may have been part of a sex addiction. Or maybe it occurred because of a disconnection or discontent in your relationship. Perhaps there was an emotional attachment formed during the affair. Or maybe your spouse still loves you and doesn’t know why he or she was unfaithful. The good news is that it is possible to recover from infidelity and reestablish trust in your relationship. With the help of an experienced couples therapist, you can identify and address the reasons for the affair and begin the healing process.

Benefits of Counseling During this Difficult Time…

Whether your marriage is reeling from an Affair, or you have already decided that there are unreconcilable difference and are on the road to divorce - I can help! I will help you navigate this difficult life transition with dignity. I have proven techniques I will teach you to help manage negative feelings towards one another. You’ll be taught conflict resolution skills that are extremely beneficial; if you’ll be raising children together through co-parenting. I will be honored to give you guidance and support that will help you make it through this difficult time after the decision to divorce has been made. During counseling, you’ll have time to face any issues that have not yet been resolved. This gives each person the closure they may need. Even though you may have a difficult time moving past the separation and agreeing to a final divorce; the ability to eventually find closure will allow you time to heal.

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